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Tell us about your experiences anonymously. For her, sex would have been something a woman endured rather than enjoyed. Coming to London in was a revelation. My friend and I shared a flat with three chaps. This was unheard of at the time, but by gosh we had fun. We had no contraception. Even when you were married, you were holding back, in case you got pregnant again. That destroyed a lot of the pleasure for women.
The greatest liberation was the contraceptive pill. I married at 24 and had two children, but I used to wish I could have sex just for the sake of it. My arms and legs still work. I can walk about. Then I realised it was a euphemism for sexually active. When I told my grandson, he burst out laughing. A man of my age would expect me to cook his food. When I was really young, I imagined myself being with a woman, because that was the norm. Growing up and finding out I was gay changed everything. At my age, a lot of gay men are quite sleazy. Straight men are probably the same. I remember going on Grindr when I was 16, and I was terrified because older men started sending me photos.
I was like: what are you doing? Is that OK? That year-old men can approach year-olds? I miss people actually talking to each other, instead of being online. The sex we see in the media is one-dimensional. I had an illness when I was , which meant I lost one of my legs. Disabled people have a blessing in a way, because they learn that there are lots of other things that you can do that are way more pleasurable. I discovered that confidence is a trick when I was at university. But I also realised that the best thing I could do was to learn how to make women genuinely enjoy themselves.
So much of sex education is not based on female pleasure at all. A lot of men have a narrative in their head about how sex should play out, which ends up prohibiting genuine experimentation. I see sex as play. But my partner is disabled as well, and there is never any pressure. We flirt and tease each other every day.
I took to it like a duck to water. I am hetero-flexible. I discovered this back in I was in my 30s when my live-in partner and I set up a role-play group. This was pre-internet, so we put an advert in a magazine, and a lot of people ed, including trans women. I prefer the sex I have now to be part of a relationship, although nobody gets me exclusively any more. One is a former lover, one is current and one will be a lover in the future.
We all know that. I have a little ritual around sex. My first teenage attempts at sex were not promising. My confidence was low. That came later for me. I feel much more able to express myself now than I did when I was younger. My current relationship is really positive. One thing I have learned is to maintain my privacy and not tell my partner everything. My most freeing experiences are usually around BDSM, stimulating yourself with wax play, bondage, being blindfolded or spanked. My mum was quite sexually aware and sassy.
That was a positive influence. My parents kept it fresh. I found a bag of naughty clothes in their wardrobe once, and I could never look at them the same way after that. They never let the spark disappear. Girls need to get their rocks off in whatever way works best for them. I ended up getting my first girlfriend pregnant when I was 17 and marrying her, so for the first six years I was having sex with only one person.
After we divorced, I began to sleep with more women. But I was an early user once the internet got started. It allowed me to be a lot more upfront about my intentions. In my 20s and 30s, there was a clash between my need to experiment and the urge to be in a relationship. It started to feel quite corrosive. For some, that makes it instantly less appealing. This year has been my big sexual awakening. Watch out, men! I was destroyed after my breakup and went online to remember how to interact with guys.
Online dating leaves a trail of digital events to agonise over, depending on how emotionally vulnerable you feel. And the very nature of the swipe interface on Tinder makes the whole thing feel so disposable. I call it being in the sex haze. My allergy to relationships has passed now.
I want to fall in love with a really sexy man who loves me. Is that too much to ask? I had a breakdown at There was a lot of acting out and I lost my virginity shortly afterwards. I was interested in sex, but I had no appreciation of myself and I got a reputation for being easy without really understanding how that had happened.
I developed addictions, and as soon as my education was over, I left home. As my addictions took over, I ended up in the sex business, and on my 30th birthday I found myself in rehab, having been charged with solicitation. Then, 10 years ago, I had a moment of clarity that I wanted to explore my sexuality with men again. One of the things I love about sex with women is that it can be so endless and full of possibilities. That kind of play requires vulnerability, and an enormous currency in any relationship.
Right from the start, I was sensitive and a bit of a nerd. At 26, the pressure and stress were getting to me. I tried online dating agencies with no success. I was simply not equipped to get along with women. I spiralled into alcoholism and eventual recovery. I met my wife towards the end of my heavy-drinking period, and we pretty much clicked instantly. The menopause came and went, her libido dropped away and our sexual encounters stopped. We are physically affectionate and greatly attached, but I miss sex and that moment of communion. I have developed a yearning for what is highly improbable: that I can take up with a young woman for casual pleasure without commitment.
The last thing I want is to hurt her. It would be agony. But I never sowed my wild oats, you see, and I regret that. Is it too late to make up for that somehow? For me, a big part of sex is getting to know someone. The more you feel that sense of commitment, that locking in of trust, the more playful and expressive you are able to be. The truly great moments?
The very first time is up there, because it felt ificant and I felt really loved. I was Also, I remember chatting to someone online when the internet was still a novelty and driving across town to have sex. Generally, I feel a bit flat. The ups and downs you get when you have periods are all gone.
I think there is a surge of hormones in your early 40s — maybe your body is trying to fulfil its destiny — because I felt up for it all the time. I would tell him what was going through my head and he would make it happen. It was quite spiritual, in a weird sort of way. Women in their 40s are dangerous. Does he not love me?Girl sex with guy
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